Genesis 31:37 (NLT) You have rummaged through everything I own. Now show me what you found that belongs to you! Set it out here in front of us, before our relatives, for all to see. Let them judge between us!
Laban was mad; Jacob was mad. Laban felt like he lost his daughters and grandchildren and his flocks all in one day. In addition, he lost one of his treasured graven images or idols. Jacob on the other hand felt like he was being very unjustly accused for something he did not do. The fact is: Laban really lost his idol, and that it was stolen from him—but not by Jacob. The fact too is: Jacob was innocent. They were both angry thinking they’re wronged by the other person. Laban could not come up with a proof regarding his lost idol. That gave Jacob more reasons to be furious.
This is so true to us. We fight because we believe we are wronged by another person. Many times, the other person feels like we’re the ones who did them wrong. In many cases, there are areas where we’re both right, and in many cases, there are areas where both are wrong. And just because one party could not come up with a good or better argument or an obvious proof does not mean they don’t have a valid point. Just because we appear to be right doesn’t mean we are right—and vice versa. This is why we have to be very careful in jumping to conclusions.
We have to do everything to understand the other party. We have to put ourselves in their shoes. We have to see things from their perspective. The more truth we know, the more we’re able to make better judgment. If it’s at all possible, it is better to pursue peace; it’s better to avoid getting angry. It is not sinful to be angry, but we have to realize how easily it could lead to sin. Often, anger can blind us. It’s better to be understanding and to be more considerate of other people—
their feelings, their perceptions, and their reactions. This does not mean we have to compromise; this just means we have to be more passionate about the truth and about loving others. We love peace; we pursue it as much as we can; we preserve it if it at all depends on us.